jane_and.the_dragon

I want to bounce something off you all. I do not think it is so much the color of someone's skin that is the cause of so much discord in this country. I think it is more the perspective that that causes the problem. I may have mentioned before I live in an area where there is nearly no problems with color. I think it is because most of the people in my neighborhood know how to be polite and respectful of each other. When we talk to each other we do it respectfully. Anyone is going to bristle if someone comes at them from out of no where screaming and yelling at them for something they did not even know was bothering them. Even though the guy I spoke to today about his music was not inclined to turn it down he was very polite as he told me he was not going to and why, but when I explained exactly why I wanted it cut back some and he realized I did live quite some distance from his house he did agree to cut it back a little. That is all it takes is a little compromising.
Before he realized how far away I lived he tried to give me money first he offered me a 20. I told him politely i did not want his money, then he offered a 100 and I told him again it is not about money it is about my health. I explained how the base effects my health and that no amount of money would fix that. Like I said in the end he did cut it back a bit. I told him it is not all the music, just the base. It was a beautiful day today and I was not trying to keep he and his friends from enjoying it, but I wanted to enjoy it too. I really think if more people would speak softer instead of yelling there would not be so much hate and violence in this world.
I did not used to understand that saying : Speak softly and carry a big stick before, but now I get it. You speak softly, because more can be achieved by calmly talking things out, but you carry the big stick in case you find someone who is not interested in talking and only wants to fight.